I am very lucky as I never really had any of my children have a tantrum, Until last night. I was in Asda with 4 of my 5 children and one of the 7 year old twin boys had a mood on because I wouldn’t buy him an Xbox game!!!! As if this strop would change my mind. Surely, after all these years he should realise this. I had said I would buy them a dvd each that cost £5 each, but noooo not Austin. Well, luckily Erin, Alannah and Fletcher were being ok. After chasing him in the shop I then warned him in front of the cashier that if he didn’t stop running off I would give his dvd and sweets to the cashier. He soon shut up!!!
Stay calm This is easier said than done, especially if they are causing a scene. But if you pick up on their anger and reflect it back it will not help the situation.
Don’t remonstrate If your child is in the throes of a tantrum they are beyond reasoning.
Give neither bribe nor punishment Well it seems I blew this one out of the water last night, doesn’t it?!! Try and send the message that tantrums will have no purpose and not get them anywhere. Whoops!
Don’t give in to demands or you create and tiny tyrant who knows that tantrums will get results. It’s really hard as sometimes you just want the whole thing to stop but if they learn early on that having this moody moment, it is less likely to get them what they want then being nice.
As screams calm down offer cuddles, warmth and praise for the child calming down.
This is just a phase and it will get easier, if you don’t give in to them. It will last longer if you let them win with these tantrums. Every parent has been through it. Ok mine was a little later in life but I still had to nip it in the bud. I am not saying that I am perfect but with 5 children and lots of friends with children I have seen a thing or two. Good luck.xx